Self Love Is The Best Love

Can more self-love lead people to optimal health? 

What Is Self-Love?

Self-love is defined as a regard for your own well-being and happiness.

But at its core, self-love is a practice. It is a practice of choosing ourselves, putting ourselves first when possible, making ourselves important (and believing we are important!), and showing ourselves kindness and self-compassion.

It is an ongoing conscious choice of things, people, and situations that are good, feel right and authentic, and serve us productively.

Self-Love and Health

A self-loving mindset switches off the threat response and puts the body in a state of feeling safe and relaxed, thus creating space for regeneration and healing. the body MUST feel safe to heal.

For many people looking to get healthier and revamp their diet and lifestyle, weight release is at the top of their "want" list. We know from ads on TV and social media, our modern-day diet industry features weight-release techniques that restrict and deprive, making people feel it is so hard to make changes. The rate of obesity and disease continues to grow, and people are in search of help, support and resources that actually work to promote long-term health.

It often seems like people are willing to do or try anything to ditch the weight. But negative-inspired motivations may limit our innate power to choose health happily, triggering behaviors that stem from frustration. Cultivating a self-loving mindset can influence our subconscious toward health from a greater source of well-being and love. Self love helps us CHOOSE a healthy lifestyle long term.

Lifestyle from a Self-Love Perspective

A self-loving approach toward nutritional and behavioral choices is based on the premise that we love ourselves. This includes increasing positive images of health and happiness, such as visualizing what it would look and feel like to reach desired health goals in a positive way. Self love affirmation cards can also help us to affirm our daily choices.

Instead of focusing on the number on a scale, trying the next fad, following a yo-yo diet, or excessively working out, positive-inspired nutritional goals could include:

• Focusing on the benefits of healthy, whole foods and how you feel after eating them
• Knowing your personal reason for staying healthy and tapping into that vision for motivation
• Pausing and utilizing mindfulness, especially at mealtimes
• Retraining your mind to love what loves you back

A healthy lifestyle transformation is actually inspiring and energizing and can make you feel proud.

A Mindfulness Approach to Self-Love

One of the fastest, most direct routes to self-awareness and learning to truly love ourselves is meditation, which teaches us about mindfulness, forgiveness, compassion, and acceptance. A mindfulness practice helps build an understanding of self as a process of awareness, thus helping direct the mind toward choosing healthy choices for ourselves.

By understanding habits surrounding food and other behaviors, we can begin to explore the deeper motivation and notice the reasons we're doing or eating certain things.

Habits of Self-Love Can Include:

• Appreciating all the body can do through a mindfulness practice
• Being around positive people
• Limiting time on social media
• Doing nice things for others
• Doing nice things for yourself
• Making a list of things you like about yourself
• Wearing clothes that feel good

When self-love grows as a new identity, healthier choices evolve more naturally. According to James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, “Habits are the way we embody identity; and true behavior change is really identity change.”

As an FDNP, I have witnessed how self-love mindfulness practices can help people create healthier habits. Taking a “let’s go inward” approach has become foundational piece in my practice as I’ve realized that outer behaviors are mostly driven by internal influences. How we feel, what we tell ourselves, and how we want to feel are important factors when addressing behavior change. It is difficult for people to make changes through discipline alone. Encouraging moments in meditation, deep breathing, and self-reflection help people feel calmer and ultimately become more self-aware, which can inspire positive change.

In today’s new and uncertain world, tapping into our own healing abilities is crucial to surviving and ultimately thriving. Becoming more mindful, aware and active in our own self-love and health can help diffuse the pain and anxiety around us. The external world is ever changing, and all we really can control is ourselves. The more we cultivate self-love – as uncommon and perhaps unrelated as some people might think it is – the safer, healthier, and happier this world can be.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on self love. Email me at confidentlyloveyourself.com